Response To February's Topic Of The Month

Over the last several weeks I have had countless dialog with women, friends, associates and family and the conversations seems to echo over and over of someone holding on to something they should let go. Let me be more specific as this topic has lead me into different types of conversations regarding holding on to something. Why do we hold on to a job or career we no longer find fulfilling? We sit and complain everyday about the job/career, the hours, the lack of this or lack of that, but we do nothing to change our situation. What are you holding on to that job for if it makes you so unhappy? Why not find a recruiter or headhunter to assist you in your job search? Why not go back to school to obtain your bachelors degree or masters degree, or obtain additional certifications to leverage your heighten skill level. Another subject around this is why do we hold on to our children and not allow them to experience life by placing barriers which do not allow them to grow and become productive citizens? Why do we hold on to them so tightly and think because we give them money or cater to their every need that we have done our job as a parent? Are you living the life you wish you had through your children until it is a hindrance? Another topic which was discussed is why do we so called progressive strong women get involved with knowingly married men, and we hang on to something which is not biblical ours to hold on to? Why do we hang on to another women's husbands when we know deep down this is toxic for all parties involved, yet we make excuses of true love, destiny or it feels so right that it possibly can not be wrong? Why do we stay in a loveless marriage without communicating with one another to determine if the marriage is worth fighting for, if the partners are equally yoked? Why do we attract dead beat loser men who use us mentally, physically or even financially? Why do we enable those men? Why do we attract and yes stay with them? Why do we hold on to complaining our finances are not where they should be, yet we go to the mall and spend on items we don't need or during Thanksgiving and Christmas spend money on gifts and presents we can not afford? Why do we do nothing to change our social economic environment? Why do we complain and hold on to the fact we have gained some weight and our self esteem is low, but we do nothing to truly change our dietary intake and even exercises? Ask yourself this question, are you holding on to something which has run its course and is no longer healthy for your way of life? If you truly ask yourself this question, you may also see there is a reason why some of the unfortunate drama you may encounter occurred. To truly obtain the life GOD has for you, you must let go the things which are not mentally, physically or financially good for your mind, body and soul. Are you hanging on to these things out of fear? Fear of being alone, fear of failure, fear of what others may say or think about you, fear of taking a financial risk? FEAR, FEAR, FEAR is an ugly root which plants itself in your mind into making you come up with the best excuses on why you should hold on to what I would consider TRASH. A trashy relationship, a trashy career, a trashy friendship, a trashy affair, trashy finances, simply put trashy living. The good news, now that you have asked yourself what are you holding on to out of fear, you can release that burden and fear to GOD and allow for him to speak to you as only he can, to provide you instruction for the next stage in your life. So in the words of my Pastor, it is time to take back what is yours in 09! Now this does not mean take what does not belong to you, simply release those holds which are keeping you stagnant from progressing and move forward and take back what is yours in 09. For me, it is taking back a career which was slightly cut short at one corporation due to layoffs, and forcefully moving forward to obtain what is mine and what the lord has for me. Now we can not take back what is ours on our own. We still must continue to read God's word, pray, communicate with healthy relationships and friends, network and do what is right. Let us stop using excuses for our trashy behavior and lets agree to take a stand and say no more! No more staying in a position at a job in which we are unhappy, no more getting into relationships with knowingly married men, or staying with a married man because it feels good or we think we are in love, or we don't want to be alone, no more getting involved in a relationship because we don't want to be alone, or we think a man will bring us happiness, no more spending on items we don't need or does not benefit us to simply say to others we have the Gucci, Hermes, Coach, Jimmy Choo, Range Rovers and BMW's. No more eating unhealthy or large portions of food which does not benefit our body, no more suffocating our children because of mistakes or tragedies which affected us as children or young adults. No more living in a household with your spouse and you don't communicate to correct issues or opportunities which are presenting themselves and simply living as roommates. No more laying down with men when you are not married because you want to feel wanted or loved, or simply as I have heard "ooh he is good in bed"; after being sexually filled do you truly feel whole or satisfied (okay I don't just mean sexually satisfied lol)? GOD has so much in store for his children, but we must stop the generational curses which have plagued our race, and community. Our bible has said fear is not of GOD, so knowing this should give us comfort when we release the wheel and let him drive he will take us to new and better places. Letting go may not always be easy, you may even fall down, but pick yourself back up, call your God, call your friends, hey call us on this blog for sincere support from our ladies community, we all can share our personal testimonies as you move through the process removing judgement and scorn. So I close with saying, lets release what is trashy in our lives, lets lean on our circle of friends, family and most of all the lord to help us through the time of release. While doing that lets take back what is ours in 09! Hey Ladies Are You With Me?

A Few Scriptures To Remember:
Matthew 14:27

Mark 5:36

Isaiah 6:10

Deuteronomy 8:17-18

(Many of you have called the founders about how you most enjoyed the blog, lets make February 09 the month we truly dialog and or comment on the topic of the month)